It’s that whole bit about intent not leading to the correct actions. We know it’s hard to believe, but our behavior doesn’t always reflect what’s in our hearts. That’s why all the shame and guilt.
4. And yet, we can’t change through brute force
We know that “everyone struggles with this stuff” and “you just have to do it.” But trying harder and powering through doesn’t work for us. That’s what it means to have ADHD.
If you love someone with ADHD, you need to know about the neurotransmitter dopamine. A lot of people call it the “pleasure and reward” chemical, but there’s more to the story. Dopamine provides the spark of motivation — the innate feeling that our actions in the present will result in a tangible consequence in the future.