When I was dating my husband, I didn’t think too much about the fact that he’d been diagnosed with Asperger’s as a child. I started to think about it more once we were engaged. And since we’ve been married I’ve become fixated on finding resources (both books and websites) detailing the experiences of others in my situation.
I have to say, those websites and books have been depressing! I stopped reading and seeking out advice when most of it ended up being, “My husband has something wrong with him. He was diagnosed with Asperger’s, and now we’re getting a divorce.” I knew going into my marriage that I would have to take on the challenges but also the benefits that Asperger’s entails, and I wanted to learn all I could so I knew how to react and respond.